Seduction and love

 Lesbians in Love

You all know the story of me and my main partner M (that's been chronicled in my blogs over the years.

As you know, we are a couple, an open couple, a lesbian couple and a poly couple.

But this blog is not about us, but our Sisters that live, love and work with us.

Romance and love is something that is fostered within the order, its a healthy thing.
As  Asian women (probably all women, really) are born lesbian, this only having being repressed by the male constructs that being Gay/ lesbian is unnatural, but  monogamy, marriage, religion and patriarchy are natural things. It's so good to see women throw off these shackles.
Whereas many western Lesbians seem to trying so hard to emulate and implant "straight rules and roles" into their relationships, we do not. 

Polyfidelity rules :

As a "Sisterhood" we are a family, we have taken an Oath and made a commitment to each other, as a group.

The group supports and loves each individual, the individual, supports and loves the group.
Our focus is on the group, the success and happiness of the order and everyone within it.
The sacrifice is to give up self interest, self centeredness and self obsession as being the path to happiness.

Each member of the order is a lover to ever other member, not to say that they necessarily  have had sex with every member of the order, but they could.
A sister may only be with one person for a while or many a day or none.
Sex does not equate to love, love can be expressed in many different ways.

Although many of us have our main"partner" we all share, why ?

We are sisters, lovers, women, a group. Unlike others we are free to love others, not just one, as we are not selfish, insecure or jealous.

We are women in touch with the true nature of women.

We are financially independent as a group so there is no need for pretending we are "straight and as we are not tied to one person (monogamy) or to marriage, we are not reliant on just one person. 

This affords us a freedom unknown to most women or even to most lesbians.

Even the novices (once through their rehab) are able and free to explore their female sexuality for the first time soon start forming sexual and intimate relationships with others.
I must have heard them say so many times now, that they have never experienced sex or love like it.

Now I'm not saying sex cannot be enjoyable with men, it can, penises, like any other sex toy have their uses. But I doubt if even straight women would marry their vibrator, they marry men for money and financial stability ( and that applies in every culture across the world) .
It was one the building blocks of patriarchy to make women financially dependent on men for their (and their children's  survival.
Now that economies have crashed, women are getting educated and have jobs, men are finding it more and more difficult to be this God like "provider" hence the rise of the "masculism movement".

However, we just fuck them for money, we don't have to live with them or pretend to love them.
Although to be fair some do, Gemstone is married to a man and loves him, but then again he's not like most men.

Ops rambling again, my bad !

Polyfidelity, what's that ?


Polygamy, as it has been practised throughout the world's cultures, has always tended towards this hierarchical, dominating structure. It does not encourage the freedom of all individuals, but rather, it encourages the submission of half to the other half; it encourages the domination of men over women. Naturally, it produces the other ill by-products of Sexism: domestic violence, discrimination, and exclusion.

Polygamy is a situation where there is one ruling spouse, and others must contend for their attention. This is vastly different from Polyfidelity, where each member of the group is in an equal position to the other. Rather than there being one man and many women, or the reverse, it tends toward having an equality of partners. In some cases, this has meant a proportionate and mixed group of men and women, as in the Kerista commune.  In other cases, this has meant a polyandrous relationship consisting of all gay men or all gay women. 

The traditional system of polygamy, harems, and concubines works to serve the sexual interests of just one at the expense of many. Polyfidelity serves the interests and liberties of all participants equally.

Both Polyfidelity and polygamy exclude outside members from interacting with the partners, but they are distinguished in their purpose. Polygamy is a device of sexism for social exploitation, while Polyfidelity is an open, sexual society, though exclusive to its chosen members.

So what are we ?

Well we have sex with others as we are whores, but love only those in our community and family, that is what really matters, at least to us.

Also the sex we have together is not the same sex we have with you- the Johns and Jane's.

You get our bodies for an act, for a period of time. Most of us have experienced an orgasm with a client, why would we, there's no emotional connection, no need to.

We just like everyone else, get our orgasms from our lovers. we get the real sex, the real passion, feelings and love.

The  freedoms and rewards that come with having multiple sex and loving partners is difficult to describe to those who have never experienced it, almost impossible to those Who's indoctrination into and acceptance for monogamy and marriage is complete.

I guess you just have to see it and live it to believe it.

By the time a girl reaches to be a "full sister", then it get's really good.

"A person's approach to sexuality is a sign of his level of evolution. Unevolved persons practice ordinary sexual intercourse. Placing all emphasis upon the sexual organs, they neglect the body's other organs and systems. Whatever physical energy is accumulated is summarily discharged, and the subtle energies are similarly dissipated and disordered. It is a great backward leap. 

For those who aspire to the higher realms of living, there is angelic dual cultivation. Because every portion of the body, mind, and spirit yearns for the integration of yin and yang, angelic intercourse is led by the spirit rather than the sexual organs. 

Where ordinary intercourse is effortful, angelic cultivation is calm, relaxed, quiet, and natural. Where ordinary intercourse unites sex organs with sex organs, angelic cultivation unites spirit with spirit, mind with mind, and every cell of one body with every cell of the other body. Culminating not in dissolution but in integration, it is an opportunity for a man and woman to mutually transform and uplift each other into the realm of bliss and wholeness."
--Lao Tzu, c. 600 BC
"Hua Hu Ching," Chapter 69

Polyamory and Polyfidelity both represent a strong, divergence from the tradition, controlling relationship of Monogamy. Both are the natural tendency of humanity to develop a social environment and human relationships forged on the mutual, cooperative interests of its participants. 
Both seek the individual to fully express their sexuality and to celebrate the glory of sex. And both encourage multiple partners as a means of satisfying the diverse and complicated wants of the individual.

"The ancient Britons had a singular kind of marriage, to be met with among no other people. Any number of them, as ten or a dozen, joined in a society together, which was perhaps requisite for mutual defence in those barbarous times. In order to link this society the closer, they took an equal number of wives in common; and whatever children were born, were reputed to belong to all of them, and were accordingly provided for by the whole community."
--David Hume, 1758
"Essays, Moral, Literary, Politic," Section: "Of Polygamy and Divorces"

I would argue however that we are both a representation of the true nature of woman - Lesbian and a true more pure example of the "state of nature" in a community/ societal sense.

As women are born Lesbian, men  only have one real role, that of sperm donation for the purpose of reproduction.

However as none us either can or want to reproduce, for us they only have two real roles . That of "living dildos" for our occasional sexual gratification (if we like playing with penises/balls) but most importantly, a revenue source, after all we are realists.

No, we are not "man haters" we can  simply live/ love without them.

We simply use their systems of Patriarchy and monogamy both of which foster "cheating" to make some of our money and help support our life style and our mission.

Polyfidelity unlike monogamy balances the concepts of security and emotional commitment with liberty and sexual impulse. The individual lover, as much as they value their independence, does enjoy the security of knowing that they have partners with whom they are regularly active socially and sexually. 

This security is actually expanded within a polyfidelous relationship, since there are more partners interested in creative and sexual expression. The relationships are built around the same principles of mutual affection and desire, so they can last just as long. Though some of these polyfidelous relationships share living space, such as in our  convents, this is not always the case.

Security and possession of and an active sex partner are often the large justifications used on behalf of the monogamous relationship: 
"It guarantees an activity partner for mutual interests and enjoyments, including the stimulation of sex".

However, within the monogamous culture, the desire for exclusion is usually accompanied by a greater, personal insecurity. Some believe that even if they had a group marriage, as described by Polyfidelity, they would find themselves left out, with everyone else paired up to someone. The guarantee of personal gratification in monogamy, then, is based on the fact that your monogamous partner only has only you for their own gratification.
Unfortunately reality has little in the way to say in supporting monogamy, the increasing divorce rates, incidents of domestic violence, incest and the millions of cheaters (of both genders) are evidence of that.

With this security of having long-term, meaningful relationships, Polyfidelity also offers a significant amount of personal freedom to the participants. Monogamy only allows one partner. But Polyfidelity allows multiple, so that a polyfedilous relationship may be three people, or as many as ten or twenty. As every individual has a variety of tastes in all aspects of their culture and society, they must so in terms of their sexual preferences. With each participant of the polyfidelous relationship, there is another chance of being able to arouse these desires in new and different ways.

Your naughty author- The Abbott Nymphette

 2014